While they say absence makes the heart grow fonder, often when it comes to relationships it's quality time spent together rather than apart that cements a bond.
Which is why it might come as a shock to find out that some say living separately from one another can strengthen a marriage.
One such woman is Amy Darcy, 27, from Sydney, who spends up to seven months of the year apart from her husband, Reis, 31, who serves in the army.
The lawyer, personal trainer and mother-of-one spoke to FEMAIL about the benefits of living apart from her husband - and revealed how it has strengthened their bond.
Amy Darcy (pictured with her family), 27, from Sydney, spends as much as seven months of the year apart from her husband, Reis, 31, who serves in the army
The lawyer, personal trainer and mother-of-one (pictured with Reis) spoke to FEMAIL about the benefits of living apart from her husband - and revealed how it has strengthened their bond
According to Amy, who lives with their two-year-old son, Finley, in Sydney, the couple spend on average between four and seven months of the year apart:
'While our family home is in Sydney, Reis works in Canberra from Monday to Friday, when he isn't travelling overseas,' Amy told Daily Mail Australia.
'Reis is in the army so between interstate courses, training exercises and deployments overseas, we generally spend between four and seven months apart each year.
'He recently just got back from six and a half months away in the Middle East.'
According to Amy (pictured with Reis), living separately has strengthened their relationship insofar as they have built up their resilience and learned to make the most of precious time
But rather than say the distance has had a negative effect on their relationship, the lawyer and mum-of-one explained that in fact it has helped them.
'It's strengthened our relationship by building our resilience,' Amy said. 'We have persevered in choosing to love each other, even when life isn't rosy, romantic and exciting.'
Amy also said that they have had to learn each other's 'love language'.
'Gifts, physical affection and time spent together when we can are all really important when you don't spend all of your time together,' she explained.
She also added that it can work well as often they will take a one week holiday in the middle of her partner's deployment, where they will go to somewhere like Thailand.
There, knowing how precious time is, they can make the most of their holiday - and have learned to value one another more.
Reis recently returned from six and a half months deployed to the middle east, during which time Amy was alone with their two-year-old son, Reis - she said that alone time means she can focus on 'what I have to do in the meantime'
Aside from these benefits, Amy said that living apart can have other positive impacts too.
Writing in a blog post, she revealed that Reis being away means she can focus on 'what I have to do in the meantime', without distractions.
She also spends time with other women whose partners are in the army, and draws strength from this.
She then puts a huge value on the quality time they do spend together as a couple, whether it's briefly at home in Sydney, or on holiday.
Of course, like anything, there are difficulties - and Amy said that she can feel quite 'lonely' as a mother while her partner is away - it is also hard on their young son (pictured with their family)
Of course, like anything, there are difficulties - and Amy said that she can feel quite 'lonely' as a mother while Reis is away.
'The extra work as a mum and around the home is one of the harder parts,' she explained. 'Ditto not having your best friend to talk to or share life with all the time.
'It's less support than a normal marriage,' she added.
Amy also said that it's 'tougher than you'd expect on kids'.
'Our son, Finley, is now two. After he was born I thought he wouldn't notice until he was at least pre-school age the impact of Dad being away,' she wrote in her post.
'To my surprise, I was wrong. In his first year of life, he wouldn't settle, would wake up more throughout the night, and just be generally grizzlier when Dad was away.'
Amy said the 'first two weeks and the last two weeks are the hardest', as it is before you have got into your new routine and when you are excited about your partner's return (pictured: Reis)
However, she added that it's always the 'first two weeks and the last two weeks that are the hardest'.
'The first two weeks you're trying to find your new routine as you fly solo.
'The last two weeks you're both anticipating their return and trying to make everything "just right" before they arrive, but equally dreading the chaos that you know is coming to your life as you lose the old routine you worked so hard to establish.'
However, Amy said that on the whole their marriage is strengthened by their time apart:
'Most defence wives are the most positive people you will meet and have emotional and mental strength beyond most,' she said.
To read more from Amy Darcy, you can visit her website, Eat Pray Workout, here. You can also follow her on Instagram here.
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Which is why it might come as a shock to find out that some say living separately from one another can strengthen a marriage.
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